Leaving an Abusive Relationship
It might be terrifying and scary, but it’s important to take the first step towards your freedom and live the kind of life you deserve. This article gives some important advice to help women leave an abusive relationship.
Leaving an abusive relationship:
Following are some of the important steps you can take:
- Find the courage to leave. This is the first important step to take. You need to make a decision to leave. It is really tough but once you decide to leave, you must believe that you can have a better life. Don’t get discouraged by what you will lose, just make a decision and plan to leave. You will face problems along your way but be strong because staying in an abusive relationship will continue to bring you pain, sorrow, and in many cases, death.
- After making the initial decision to leave, it is important to plan your financial matters. Money is important to survive in the world. If you don’t have one now, start looking for a job. You need to establish yourself financially and be prepared to take care of your expenses when you’re on your own.
- Try to save money. Don’t depend on friends for help and don’t wait for child support in the beginning, because friends may not help you and child support may take time. Hiding at least $20 a week, unknown to your partner can add up over time. You should also open your own checking account. Do all this before leaving and not afterwards because you will have many other things to take care of as you start your new life.
- Find a new place where you can live comfortably, and if you have children, make sure the school system is good. Don’t give your address to your partner and don’t tell him at all that you are leaving. If you do, it will probably cause a fight and your partner may prevent you from leaving.
- If you are married and want to divorce, find a good lawyer. Most lawyers will give the first consultation for free. Be careful, because some lawyers will drag your divorce out and thus increase their fee, so find a lawyer who is on your side.
- Get advice from previously battered or divorced women; their advice and experience can give you the courage you need to make a move.
- There are many shelters, women’s centers, and other organizations that assist women in leaving abusive relationships. Contact one to receive the assistance and support you’ll need to leave your abuser and establish yourself emotionally and financially.
Above are some of the steps women should take to leave an abusive relationship.