Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Abuse can be emotional, physical or sexual. Hitting, kicking and slapping are signs of physical abuse and can occur in both friendships and romances. It is difficult to recognize emotional abuse as it does not leave any visible scars. Putdowns, betrayal, intimidation and threats are signs of emotional abuse. Sexual abuse is when anyone forces you to do anything of a sexual manner against your will.

Signs of an Abusive Relationship

You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Is possessive or jealous towards you.
  • Does not like it when you spend time with family or friends and tries to isolate you from them.
  • Tries to control your activities by being very demanding or domineering.
  • Abuses alcohol or drugs.
  • Hits, pushes, slaps, kicks, punches, or bites you.
  • Discourages or prevents you from working or furthering your education.
  • Takes or destroys your sentimental items or personal property.
  • Blames you when she or he mistreats you.
  • Is very violent and loses his/her temper quickly.
  • Makes jokes that humiliate, shame, embarrass or demean you, whether privately or around friends and family.
  • Exhibits violent anger when he/she feels shame, fear, hurt, or loss of control.
  • Pressures you sexually when you are not interested.
  • Blames you for his/her emotional state.
  • Causes your friends and family to worry about your emotional well being or safety.
  • Makes you afraid of how he/she will react to things you do or say.

Tips to help yourself

  • Healthy relationships involve trust, respect, and consideration for each other. If these qualities are not present in a relationship, it may turn abusive.
  • Try to get out of an abusive relationship as soon as possible. Above all, make sure you are safe. If the person attacks you physically, call the police immediately.
  • Avoid isolating yourself from your family and friends. You may be worried or afraid about what is happening in your relationship and this is the time you need their support.
  • People like doctors, counselors, coaches, and teachers are trained to help in situations like these.  Find the courage to tell someone about your abusive situation.

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