Why Good Girls Like Bad Boys

The old cliche of “Opposites attract had been around for decades and probably most accurately described why men and women fall for one another.  If you ask women why they date bad boys, most women will say the thrill, the challenge or the excitement of doing things which they know are wrong or out of the norm. But, what begins as an exciting adventure often ends in pain and dismay.

Bad boys can hurt you in the long run but at the same time, they can make you feel like a queen and take you to the top of the world when they are good. Here are some of the most common reasons why girls like bad guys.

Secret Fear of Intimacy

Some women seek out bad boys to date because they want to enjoy a relationship without being too close to the guy.  Most bad boys are not looking, or are capable of having, a serious relationship and this blatant level of emotional unavailability is attractive to women not seeking a relationship either, whether they know it or not.

A subconscious desire to bring back daddy

Many women are attracted towards a man who is similar to her father. So, if your father is emotionally unavailable to you or your father is or was a bad guy, you may find yourself falling for a bad guy who has similar characteristics to your father.

Low self-esteem

Your self-esteem dictates the standards and goals of your life. So, if you think you are good and confident, you set high standards in every aspect of your life which includes your romantic relationships. If you don’t value yourself or have a low self-esteem, you may fall for a bad guy, thinking that you don’t deserve someone who would treat you better.

Media Brainwashing

Music videos and movies portray the bad guys as charming and attractive but rarely focus on the heart break and dismal relationship skills they possess.  This lends to an unrealistic association of bad boys as not being as bad of a choice for relationships as they typically turn out to be in the end.

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