How to Know if You Really Love Him

Where affection and love are concerned, you may deceive yourself but you never want to deceive your heart. Feelings that come from the heart are usually reflected in a person’s unconscious actions. But, there is a huge difference between being in love with someone and being infatuated. So, here are a few tips to help you find out whether you are really in love or not.

  • Write down all your feelings and thoughts about what love means for you, and what you expect from a relationship. Make sure that you note down only your thoughts and not anyone else’s definition of love.
  • Understand the difference between lust, infatuation and love and see where you stand. Lust is an intense physical attraction and sexual desire, which can be a part of a relationship. Love is something beyond physical attraction. On the other hand, infatuation is the feeling you have at beginning of a relationship, the stage where you go mad or crazy about him. These intense feelings soon fade away, however.
  • Now, examine or write down what you feel when you talk to him, or how you feel when you don’t see him for a week. Write down all the feelings or thoughts that come to your mind when you think about him.
  • You can also ask your friends or acquaintances what they understand about love and how they feel when they are truly in love.
  • Ask yourself what you feel about him and what you think of him. For instance, do you enjoy his company, trust him, have similar tastes and interests, or find him very attractive?
  • Ask yourself whether you accept and see him as a whole person. Love is not just attraction or loving one particular part of the person, but loving the person completely.
  • If you ask yourself all the above points and find that you love this man wholly, no matter what the reasons may be, then you are not far away from true love.

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