Shy Love
What is love shyness?
The common link that binds all love shy persons is a sense of fear-a paralyzing fear of expressing romantic interest to women they have intimate feelings for. Also, many love shy persons have a deep and often obsessive need to be with a beautiful woman. This results in an obsession with a woman within their vicinity, whom they put high up on a pedestal as the woman of their life. Most of the time this happens without the opposite individual being aware of the person's intentions!
- There also prevails a certain sense of shame in the mind for not being 'manly' enough to manage a simple thing like getting to woo a lady of choice
- Also, love shy persons often have general problems with social situations, which means they often don't have many friends or people to confide in
Reasons for being love shy
There are a number of reasons for becoming love shy that could vary from an individual's background to his / her set of experiences. There exist several possibilities some of which could be
- Genetic or incorrect behavioral patterns being instilled by parents
- Harsh rejection by a subject of infatuation and probably other reasons too
Apart from the above stated reason, other reasons could be ailment and disorders. Some people become love shy because they suffer from disabilities like Asperger syndrome or Serotonine syndrome, or similar physical problems. Those who discover that they suffer from love shyness should consider the possibility that they have some underlying problems like these.
Remedy
Love being a phenomenon which cannot be quantitatively measured, it wouldn't be possible to suggest a remedy which applies to all across the spectrum. There is no hard and fast remedy for this which will work in all cases. What works for one person may not be at all appropriate for another. Some of the measures which you could think to come out of love shyness are
- Change the way you perceive the world of socialization, the way you experience other people This process would take time and effort to force your subconscious mind to react differently in social situations.
- For some people, education could be the key
- Just learning how social interaction proceeds between normal people helps could help a few people to come out love shyness. You could read stuff like Pilinski.
- Also, you could watch other people interacting, watch how long people maintain eye contact while conversing,
- You could try reading books on body language.
- The good news is that it is possible! A lot of people have managed to fix their life and have normalized their approach towards women. They have managed to shy away their love shyness and all that is required is an effort!
