Ways to Break Up Graciously
Not all stories end with "… and they lived happily ever after", for life is both about makes and breaks. The term 'break up' often refers to the breaking up of a relationship; especially a love relationship. Those involved in the relationship begin to feel that things are not working out the way you expected it to.
Breakups occur quite often. After spending time together, the partners start moving out of their euphoric blind love and begin to view things practically. It is when all the castles in the air crumble down to earth that you fall "out" of love.
However agonizing the experience might prove to be, it is pointless to drag on a relationship that one feels is just not working out. It becomes essential for such relationships to culminate in a break up. On such occasions, it is always necessary to see to it that the splitting does not become traumatic for either party involved.
Here are some tips/ways to breakup graciously:
Look at things from a distance:
It is important to look at things from a distance, and give ample thought on the matter before you decide to break the news. Be in a calm state of mind and overcome emotions like anger, which would often end in repentance, before you decide to speak out. Before you decide to break up, you have to make sure that the decision is firm and was not taken in haste.
Talk in person:
Letters, mails, phone calls or a third party medium would not be a good option. It is often in a face to face conversation that you respond to the occasion immediately and convincingly.
Breaking the news:
The news should be put before the other person in a gentle manner so as not to hurt him/her. Rather than keeping matters to yourself, it is advisable to express your feelings, views and opinions in a clear and convincing manner. Clear all misunderstandings and do not leave any loose ends. Give him/her an honest and convincing reason for breaking up.
Heed to the other person:
Be receptive to the other person's reaction. Accept the other person's reaction in a cool and rational manner. Give him/her a chance to speak out. Take care not to blame each other which could make matters worse. Try to answer the other person's queries sincerely and rationally. Do not get carried away if the other person persuades you to continue the relationship even if you do not want to.
Could end up being friends:
No relationship can be erased thoroughly, since it has already left a deep mark. One is often left with memories that stay alive. In some cases, if you feel that you could still maintain the relationship at the level of friendship, then do not hesitate to express it; for it might turn out to be a healthy friendship. But at times, it so happens that after a break up, friendships do not work out, for it might renew the old feelings.
What ever be the reasons, it is always nice to break up relationships graciously, though it might sound a little absurd.
Interestingly, the company Budweiser has proclaimed June 2 as the "National Breakup Day" that gives a space and time for people to put a full stop to relationships that have fallen out of love. It is on the very same day that the movie Break Up starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn got released.
